When You Love Deeper Than Most: A Spiritual Lesson on Overflowing Love

Are you someone who loves deeper than most? Someone who gives generously with your time, energy, emotions often more than you receive?

That’s me.

I’ve always been intuitive, altruistic, and deeply feeling especially in romantic relationships. I would give and give, overflowing with affection and effort. But for a long time, I also struggled with people-pleasing. I wanted so badly to be loved in return that I often ignored my own boundaries. And when I didn’t receive the same love back, I would feel disappointed, heartbroken, even resentful.

There’s a quote I heard once that stayed with me:

“You can give someone the whole ocean… but if all they have to give you back is a jar of pickles, that’s all they can offer.”

It’s not about getting angry or upset at them. It’s about understanding they simply don’t have the capacity to meet you where you are. Some people have only ever known how to give pickles. That’s their current level of emotional availability, and it has nothing to do with your worth.

One day, everything shifted.

I joined a live tarot session, and to my surprise, I was chosen for a reading. The tarot reader looked at me and said something that forever changed how I saw myself and my purpose.

She said, “You carry a lot of pain, Sophia. A lot of suffering. You feel deeply for others, and you love deeply as well.”

Then she paused and said, “But the problem isn’t that you give too much. And it’s not that you’re giving to the wrong people.”

She told me, “You are meant to give to those who cannot give back. You are like the goddess Parvati a divine feminine energy full of unconditional love. The Goddess is filling your vessel with love from above, water that overflows within you, so that you may pour it into the empty cups of others.”

And then came the part that truly unlocked something inside me:

“The only way you will stop suffering… is to stop expecting the love to come back.”

Wow. That moment gave me goosebumps.

For so long, I thought I was loving the wrong people. But what if my soul’s purpose is to show love to those who don’t yet know how to love themselves? To be a vessel, filled from the divine, overflowing not for validation, but for healing?

Suddenly, it all made sense. Throughout my life, I’ve encountered cold, emotionally distant people. And while I was often hurt by their lack of warmth, something inside me always knew they were still worthy of love. Maybe they just needed someone like me to reflect that love back to them, to remind them of their worth.

I’m learning now that I don’t need to chase love from others. I am already filled. The Divine fills my cup daily and because of that, I can continue to love, even in the absence of reciprocation.

Because love is not a transaction. It’s an expression of divine abundance.

And when your heart is full from above… you can give freely, without fear of running dry.